Ivan and his colleagues are taking part of a workshop outside of the city. Discussions are interesting and engaging. During the breaks there is laughter and fun.
Despite all having fun together, Ivan has a part who believes “I don’t belong” and “I’m alone”.
This is painful and another part of Ivan comes immediately to help: Dissociative part.
The result is that Ivan doesn’t feel the pain of “I’m alone” part and he’s even more distant from his colleagues.
When during a session he discusses this situation, his therapist asks:
“Is this something familiar to you? Has this happened before?”
Ivan’s answer: Ooo, yes. Because of my dad’s work during my childhood, we have often moved our homes.
And I have often changed schools and felt “I don’t belong” and “I’m alone”.
Ivan made connection with that vulnerable part. He felt part’s feelings with intensity which is tolerable and released the belief “I’m alone”.
Now Dissociative part. doesn’t need to work so hard
And next time when Ivan is in a workshop with his colleagues, he could enjoy and laugh with them.
Example
Example of how childhood traumas can be activated by everyday life and stand in the way of our happiness
